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Community Safety Female Aggression Cyberbullying "Taking away school kids’ mobile phones a step to stopping school bullies" Herald Sun August 23, 2017 and Comment by Pete Dowe Unfortunately with cyberbullies we have smart phones for dumb users


Unfortunately with cyberbullies we have smart phones for dumb users

"High school girls have long operated on divide-and-conquer pack mentality that relies on stronger girls hunting out the weaklings. It’s horrendous, but nothing new."
"...the possibility of the images or footage being instantly distributed far and wide, gives bullies enormous power."

Adults including Adult females some of whom would be Mothers do this in the community also
When as citizens we get all hairy chested and mouth "just say NO to bullying" we don't even know what we are talking about.
Most bullying now is not verbal nor physical aggression.
It is covert behind your back and cyber holding one up to embarrassment and ridicule at the flick of a switch.
Secondly actions speak louder than words.
We like bullying big time
Half the community’s into it!
And the other half doesn’t realise it’s going on.

Pete Dowe


"As a society we have only said NO to #overtbullying

We have opened the floodgates to #covertbullying and #cyberbullying #mobilephones

Woo hoo!"

Pete Dowe 

"I wouldn't want to be a member of any group I had to denounce someone to be a member.

So I skipped the denunciation ceremony"
Pete Dowe


Girls/ women who bully


Cyberbullying has become the latest negative tool in the bully’s toolbox. 


Here, the bully can attack, create cliques, gossip, spread rumors, and character-assassinate their target, anonymously.


As a result of the anonymity of the Internet, this relational aggression is particularly toxic. 


Girls are so dependent on relationships that some have been known to go to sleep with their cell phones. So you can imagine how girls feel when they view Facebook pictures of groups they are not included in, parties they have been left out of, and relationships they don’t have... never mind being defriended. This kind of trauma can lead to jealousy, feelings of rejection, sadness, depression, and even suicide.



When women bully, and they do, it is often related to both competition and judgment. Judgment offers control and it has the capacity to lead to cruelty. However, this need for control can be a compensation in women for both self-scrutiny and the fear of being seen.



The insecurity of believing that our personal flaws may become visible and therefore attacked, creates the all too familiar internal dialogue of criticism, that inner voice from early childhood that answers to our own feelings of unworthiness and low self-esteem.






The words now associated with female aggressive behavior include: 

excluding, ignoring, teasing, gossiping, secrets, backstabbing, rumor spreading and hostile body language (i.e., eye-rolling and smirking).  

Most damaging is turning the victim into a social "undesirable". 

The behavior and associated anger is hidden, often wrapped in a package seen as somewhat harmless or just a "girl thing".  



The covert nature of the aggression leaves the victim with no forum to refute the accusations 

and, in fact, attempts to defend oneself leads to an escalation of the aggression." 



(Bullying in the Female World

The Hidden Aggression Behind the Innocent Smile)

Psychology Today Sep 03, 2011









Taking away school kids’ mobile phones a step to stopping school bullies


TAKE away kids’ mobile phones during school hours, give teachers more power to punish bullies and force parents to be more accountable.
These are a few simple steps that would address the ugly bullying flash mobthat occurred this week at Killester College in Springvale.
The incident in question involved two petrified girls barricading themselves in the toilets while a few others taunted them, watched by dozens of others.
This example was certainly extreme, but it’s hardly out of the ordinary. However, when you add mobile phones into the mix, every bully becomes a potential online harasser, relaying every exchange at the push of a button to thousands of others.






It is believed the attack was planned through social media on Monday night as girls used Facebook to assemble a mob.

It’s time to stop and question why high school students are allowed to have phones at school in the first place.
Sadly these days. high school kids too often rule the roost, holding teachers and parents to ransom with their demands for 24/7 mobile phone access, lack of rules and zero accountability.
The kind of bullying that took place in the Killester bathroom has been going on for years. High school girls have long operated on divide-and-conquer pack mentality that relies on stronger girls hunting out the weaklings. It’s horrendous, but nothing new.
Why don’t schools ensure all phones are either handed in at the beginning of the day or are switched off and left in lockers? Any urgent communication from parents can come through the school office like it used to in the old days.






High school students should not be allowed mobile phones at school.

The threat of incidents being filmed, and the possibility of the images or footage being instantly distributed far and wide, gives bullies enormous power.
In this case, the attack was allegedly filmed and broadcast on Facebook Live and reached more than 1000 views before it was deleted.
Although it could be argued the targets of the bullies used their phones to ring for help, having phones didn’t stop the melee from starting in the first place, and certainly made things a lot worse.
The footage of the incident shows more than one student filming, which would have acted to spur on those involved and further scare the targets.
It’s also been alleged that the incident stemmed from comments made on social media on Monday night. The Greater Dandenong Leader has reported that the attack was also planned through social media.
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What to Do if Your Child Is a Bully
We should also be asking where the teachers were while this was going on. The noise from the incident was almost deafening at times, as the girls shouted and hanged on cubicle doors.
A teacher from the school has since said the school worked on the principle of “restorative justice” which meant they would try and bring everyone together. Surely this softly-softly approach is part of the problem. Why haven’t the girls who were watching been punished along with those who were directly involved?
There’s another issue here too: the role of parents. Sadly, questions abound. What are girls learning at home if they think this is an appropriate way to behave? Why do so many girls have so few qualms about hunting down and preying on a couple of their vulnerable peers who were so scared they called the police? Parents need to take control of their own children and stop trying to be their best friends.
Let’s hope we can all learn some lessons from this terrifying incident.



http://www.heraldsun.com.au/news/opinion/susie-obrien/taking-away-school-kids-mobile-phones-a-step-to-stopping-school-bullies/news-story/d436c8c0565ad008cfc65c1f6ba4b6f2

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