Monday, October 31, 2016

Community Safety Cyberbullying HyperVigilantism Fear of Crime "Normal fathers looking after their own children are not perverts and they shouldn’t be treated as such" says Susie O’Brien Herald Sun Oct 24th 2016 Social Exclusion Social "Knowledge" and Comment by Pete Dowe



#cyberbullying #covertbullying
As a society we have only said NO to #overtbullying
We have opened the floodgates to covert bullying and cyberbullying
Woo hoo!


Pete Dowe

"I wouldn't want to be a member of any group I had to denounce someone to be a member.

So I skipped the denunciation ceremony"

Pete Dowe


Normal fathers looking after their own children are not perverts and they shouldn’t be treated as such, says Susie O’Brien. Generic picture: Trevor Allen



What happens is that fathers themselves start to self-censor themselves and their movements in expectation of other people’s incorrect assumptions.


As Mr Ray said: “It can make you a bit paranoid at times. At shopping centres I don’t want to be seen to carry Charlie to the toilet even if she wants me to pick her up.”

Comment by Pete Dowe


This fear of crime hypervigilant criminal cyberbullying vigilante madness must stop!
It is not a community service
It is criminal behaviour
When Arthur Miller researched the Salem Witch-hunts (for The Crucible) it was in order to understand the hysteria of the Senator Joe McCarthy Communist "witch-hunts"
and that nameless faceless people could unaccountably denounce others with the moral weight belonging to the accuser.


The rule of thumb used to be "let those without sin cast the first stone"
Now sinners are lining up with a cheersquad to get their rocks off


While we continually marginalise males in the community the song remains the same a constant chorus of we're not doing enough for women.
This broken record must be smashed
We are doing more than enough to encourage female bullies and physically violent females by ignoring them with tacit approval.


And under the five year plan right
You go Girl!


Pete Dowe


Normal fathers looking after their own children are not perverts and they shouldn’t be treated as such, says Susie O’Brien. Generic picture: Trevor Allen
Normal fathers looking after their own children are not perverts and they shouldn’t be treated as such, says Susie O’Brien. Generic picture: Trevor Allen
Susie O'Brien
Susie O’Brien: Loving fathers should never be demonised


Susie O’Brien, Herald Sun
October 24, 2016 8:01pm
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NORMAL fathers looking after their own children are not perverts and they shouldn’t be treated as such. There is something wrong with the way fathers are viewed with suspicion for doing ordinary things that mothers do every day.


Dads should be able to watch their kids play at the park, help them get changed at a dance concert or take their photo at the beach without being portrayed as a paedophile or creep.


It’s time to stop pathologising dads for merely being dads. Just ask personal trainer Michael Ray, 54, who’s raising his daughter, Charlie, 4, on his own. A few weeks ago Mr Ray was told he wasn’t able to accompany Charlie backstage at her ballet concert next month because of a prohibition on males.


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Michael Ray with his daughter Charlie. Picture: Eugene Hyland
The ban was lifted after he told organisers that meant his daughter would not be able to have the same support as other children.


“I wanted them to understand what impact the blanket ban on men being backstage could have on Charlie,” he said. “She would be the only child without the opportunity to share their excitement and nervousness with a parent.”


What a disgrace that a loving father had to beg for the same right that was automatically granted to mothers. How galling for a father to be treated with suspicion just because he’s a man.


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There is something wrong with the way fathers are viewed with suspicion for doing ordinary things that mothers do every day. Generic picture: Ron Chapple
This situation is common, given that rising divorce rates mean a greater number of fathers are spending time alone with their children, often on weekends.


Forty-three per cent of families now don’t meet the nuclear model of a biological mother, father and children living together.


Sadly, though, Mr Ray’s experience is not an isolated example. Sometimes males do not need to be even around children — just being a man is enough of a crime.


Last year a Melbourne man was labelled a “sex offender” and a “pedo” for taking a selfie in front of a Darth Vader Star Wars display in a suburban Target store.


It was a huge mistake, with the man only taking a photo of himself to send to his kids as a “daggy dad” joke.


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Nonetheless, he was still subject to a police investigation and cleared only after police realised he had taken only his own photo.


Other instances abound of this kind of treatment. Take, for example, online gossip king Perez Hilton, who took a selfie while having a shower with his son last year.


Although Hilton had his bathers on in the photo, he was accused of being a “sick f---” and of engaging in child abuse. How ridiculous.


It’s a case of men being assumed to be depraved unless proven otherwise.


In the UK a father taking snaps of his sons enjoying an inflatable slide at a local show was told to stop by organisers. He was told it was because he could be taking photos of other children and posting them on the internet. He wasn’t, but it didn’t stop him being asked to leave.


What happens is that fathers themselves start to self-censor themselves and their movements in expectation of other people’s incorrect assumptions.


As Mr Ray said: “It can make you a bit paranoid at times. At shopping centres I don’t want to be seen to carry Charlie to the toilet even if she wants me to pick her up.”


Surely it’s time to remove this sinister suspicion that plagues the movement of normal dads.


Often the lines are totally nebulous: a dad buying clothes for his daughter is cute, but it’s suspicious when it’s underwear. Onlookers can’t see a dad and his daughter; they only see a pervert and his prey.


Similarly, a dad watching his son play soccer is praised, but he’s persecuted when he’s watching him swim at the local pool.


Such discrimination is rarely levelled at mothers.




Dads should be able to watch their kids play at the park without persecution. Generic picture: Getty
EVERY time a new example of this phenomenon comes to light, it’s met with a barrage of similar stories from grandfathers too scared to take their granddaughters to the park, or men who are unwilling to assist a strange child for fear of being accused of taking advantage.


It’s the same reason many men shy away from working in childcare or primary schools.


The outcome of having a generation of children growing up without positive male role models is that the males they do see are viewed with suspicion.


Making matters worse are the extreme radical feminists who view every boy and man as a potential attacker, which serves to demonise all fathers.


There is also our family law system, which still tends to favour some mothers without apparent reason.


Loving dads are no one’s enemy.


The fact is that children are much more likely to be abused by a non-biological man they know — often mum’s boyfriend — than their natural father or a stranger in the street.


It’s time to give everyday dads a break and stop persecuting them for nothing more than simply being parents.


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