Friday, July 15, 2016

Community Safety Gender Equality Rumour Spread Misandry Male Misandry Comment by Pete Dowe Entrenched Prejudice towards Masculinity Politically Correct Disrespect towards Masculinity "The #genderspecific approach to crime is wrong. Female aggression, physical or emotional is also a female community safety issue" Pete Dowe " Masculinity has also weak-mindedly "gone along" with the #genderspecific approach to crime which perpetuates the assumptions of "Man bad, Woman good, Male wrong, Female right" Pete Dowe "Males marginalised to the Role of "Potential Perpetrator" or Vigilante Hero-Jerk Pete Dowe


"Males marginalised to the Role of "Potential Perpetrator" or Vigilante Hero-Jerk


Pete Dowe



Girls/ women who bully

Cyberbullying has become the latest negative tool in the bully’s toolbox. 

Here, the bully can attack, create cliques, gossip, spread rumors, and character-assassinate their target, anonymously.

As a result of the anonymity of the Internet, this relational aggression is particularly toxic. 

Girls are so dependent on relationships that some have been known to go to sleep with their cell phones. So you can imagine how girls feel when they view Facebook pictures of groups they are not included in, parties they have been left out of, and relationships they don’t have... never mind being defriended. This kind of trauma can lead to jealousy, feelings of rejection, sadness, depression, and even suicide.

When women bully, and they do, it is often related to both competition and judgment. Judgment offers control and it has the capacity to lead to cruelty. However, this need for control can be a compensation in women for both self-scrutiny and the fear of being seen. The insecurity of believing that our personal flaws may become visible and therefore attacked, creates the all too familiar internal dialogue of criticism, that inner voice from early childhood that answers to our own feelings of unworthiness and low self-esteem.



Misandry
Why is it that the world is prepared to assume/ believe the worst in men for even the most dubious of reasons? 
I believe it is partly because men are prepared to believe the worst in other men. 
A sort of internalised self-loathing. An assumption by men that all men are likely to be bad because males are capable of bad things.

Masculinity has also weak-mindedly "gone along" with the #genderspecific approach to crime which perpetuates the assumptions of 
"Man bad, Woman good, 
Male wrong, Female right"

But just because we males need to learn to direct our energy, control our anger, control our lust, doesn't make us inherently bad or even guilty. 
Mum once said that women were better people because the jails were full of men.
I probably should've said "that's cos we haven't caught up with the women yet" ha ha.

The politically correct #genderspecific approach to crime has decreed that female perpetrators are not a community safety problem or not the "real" problem.
Yet Females are increasingly physically violent and often to other females 

http://petedoweroadsafetyadvocate.blogspot.sg/2016/06/community-safety-female-aggression.html

Female aggression, physical or emotional is also a female community safety issue.

"It doesn't matter what she did" 
she is entitled to rule of law, equal application of the law and due process

The #genderspecific approach to crime is wrong. 

I do believe men need to learn to be even-handed towards other men. 

To simply ask "What do you mean by that?" when they are told that another man is dubious, or question the specifics of a rumour and the motives of the rumour spreader. 

And to resist the insecure male urge to "look good" at another Man's expense.

This is not only responsible, but it is in Men's self interest. 


“The question of why other members of the group participate appears to be related to their need to belong and their fear of being excluded [186; 187]. 
For example, while many students may not agree with bullying [188; 189], most students fail to support the person being bullied [190]. 

Studies of adolescent cliques suggest that while clique members may not believe the rumours they are told, their main reason for going along with it is for fear of exclusion [191]

As Garandeau and Cillessen [139] suggest, bullying in this way becomes like following a trend, a ‘fashionable’ thing to do, making them look good and reinforcing their sense of belonging.

Contrary to popular belief that the role of groups is to maintain cohesion among individual members, and hence bullying might be a way of excluding those who jeopardise the group’s homogeneity, a study of 15 year old girls in Australia [192] 

found that even when a person who was bullied left the school, and hence no longer posed a threat, malicious rumours were spread to the new school. It has been suggested, therefore, 

that dysfunctional groups, with a high level of imbalance of power among members, are far more likely to use covert, manipulative forms of bullying [192]

The major difference between genders is that for girls, holding social knowledge equates to holding social power as a means of manipulating their peers

while boys tend to use ‘rational-appearing aggression’ [109] to assist them to disguise their manipulation of the situation. Rational-appearing aggression can include interrupting, criticising, unfairly judging others and questioning others’ judgement, and is a form of aggression which can be presented as being ostensibly rational and concealed as not being aggressive at all [220]. 

Both mechanisms have the same ultimate outcome [111]. In other words, both girls and boys rate social aggression and covert bullying as worse than physical aggression and bullying [146; 205], and studies have shown it to be strongly linked to depression [122], anxiety [149] and low self-esteem [221] in both genders.

‘Cyber bullying’ has been described as a particularly damaging form of psychological covert aggression that involves “….

the use of information and communication technologies to support deliberate, repeated, and hostile behaviour by an individual or group, that is intended to harm others…” [99], 

and frequently involves “[s]ending or posting harmful material or engaging in other forms of social aggression using the Internet or other digital technologies” [261, p. 1].

Edith Cowan University


Re “The major difference between genders is that for girls, holding social knowledge…”

Social knowledge?


Rumour as information? Assumption as knowledge? Emotion as fact?

To quote MARTIN NIEMÖLLER: "FIRST THEY CAME FOR THE SOCIALISTS..."
 re Nazi Germany: 


First they came for the Socialists, and I did not speak out—
Because I was not a Socialist.
Then they came for the Trade Unionists, and I did not speak out— 
Because I was not a Trade Unionist.
Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out— 
Because I was not a Jew.
Then they came for me—and there was no one left to speak for me. 

https://www.ushmm.org/wlc/en/article.php?ModuleId=10007392


Politically Correct Misandry is an issue, and it's time Male Misandry was also addressed. 

If you think you'll look good as a man while another man's reputation is trashed, 

or relief that some other man is being picked on and not you, 

lots of luck. 

One day there will be no man 
who will challenge the rumours about you

Pete Dowe
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