Sunday, June 14, 2015

Community Safety Family Violence Extract from Pete Dowe's submission to the Royal Commission into Family Violence


Extract from Pete Dowe's submission to the Royal Commission into Family Violence 

http://petedoweroadsafetyadvocate.blogspot.com.au/2015/05/community-safety-family-violence-royal.html

"Being Male today is sort of like being left-handed in a right-handed world and I would have thought feminists and feminism would be sensitive to that.
I have a question: “If it is a patriarchy, who’s the dumb, inept bastard running it!?”...
"There is a gender-biased assumption that female perpetrators and their victims are insignificant, infinitesimal  and ought be ignored as not a “real problem.”
This is not gender equality!
People will “tend to play down or completely ignore evidence that contradicts their existing opinion...”
“What’s more, they will have no idea that they’re doing it.”
The manifestation of confirmation bias
Or “Quick! Call the thought-Police!”

Assumptions and Misperception

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While this extract from a Psychology Today article refers to misreading individuals, I argue it has parallels with attitudes on Family Violence.
“So when it comes to perceiving you, your colleagues are (without realizing it) relying heavily on assumptions, the miserly brain’s favorite shortcut. Those assumptions guide what the perceiver sees, how that information is interpreted, and how it is remembered, forming an integral part of his or her perception of you.
 Assumptions come in many varieties, but two of the most powerful and pervasive of these are confirmation bias and the primacy effect.”
The Confirmation Bias
“When other people look at you, they see what they expect to see. If they have reason to believe that you are smart, they will see evidence of intelligence in your behavior—whether or not there actually is any. If they have reason to believe you are dishonest, they will interpret a lack of eye contact or awkward body language as evidence that you have something to hide, as opposed to evidence that you are shy, distracted, or in gastric distress.
In a nutshell, people will interpret your current behavior in a way that makes it consistent with your past behavior, and they will tend to play down or completely ignore evidence that contradicts their existing opinion of you. What’s more, they will have no idea that they’re doing it.
Confirmation bias is shaped by many factors. Stereotypes about the groups to which you belong, your apparent similarity to other people the perceiver knows, and cultural attitudes—yours and theirs—are among the most consequential. And of course, their own past experience with you, if they have any, plays a major role.”
Psychology Today Mar 24, 2015
 
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-science-success/201503/2-reasons-why-people-dont-get-know-the-real-you?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost
Confirmation bias also occurs when females commit family violence.
(Gender Bias, Gender Equality)
“Confirmation bias is shaped by many factors. Stereotypes about the groups to which you belong”
Female aggression predominantly, emotional violence is still unfortunately not an issue in our society which leaves victims without recourse, and difficulty raising the negative impact.
There is also some confusion on what constitutes female aggression such as Magazine articles in defence of aggressive females.
Articles arguing that “power women” are simply confident but supposedly “seen” as aggressive by all the “insecure men” who can’t cope with, are intimidated by, jealous of, “incredible” power women who are “successful” and have skills the “insecure men” don’t.
To clarify, Female Aggression as defined by Psychology Today is:
"Until fairly recently, there were no sounds associated with female aggression -- as if it didn't exist.
It's only in the last decade or so that aggression by the female -- in the form of social or relational aggression -- has been recognized.
 The words now associated with female aggressive behavior include:
excluding, ignoring, teasing, gossiping, secrets, backstabbing, rumor spreading and hostile body language (i.e., eye-rolling and smirking). 
Most damaging is turning the victim into a social "undesirable".
The behavior and associated anger is hidden, often wrapped in a package seen as somewhat harmless or just a "girl thing". 
The covert nature of the aggression leaves the victim with no forum to refute the accusations
and, in fact, attempts to defend oneself leads to an escalation of the aggression."
“Bullying in the Female World
The Hidden Aggression Behind the Innocent Smile”
Sep 03, 2011
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-long-reach-childhood/201109/bullying-in-the-female-world
Appropriate Attitudes
Note the words "Until fairly recently, there were no sounds associated with female aggression-- as if it didn't exist.” 
Being Male today is sort of like being left-handed in a right-handed world and I would have thought feminists and feminism would be sensitive to that.
I have a question: “If it is a patriarchy, who’s the dumb, inept bastard running it!?”
 “Women write most of the books on human relations and over 80% of the purchasers are female. Most of these books tend to focus on Men, what they do wrong and how you can improve them. Most relationship counsellors and therapists are also women.”
 “If a woman slaps a man’s face in public, everyone assumes he’s in the wrong”
Why Men don’t have a clue...
Alan and Barbara Pease 2005

Common Assumptions towards Male victims
“He musta done something” “He deserved it” “It’s men’s turn to be victims”

“Man bad, Woman good
Male wrong, Female right”
Pete Dowe

“Maleness in itself is not a crime or an illness or something we have to fight against,”
 Clint Greagen

Maybe it’s confronting for women and men to see femininity as other than the clich√©s
“all things sweet and nice”
or   “bold, strong, confident, wonderful, incredible, fantastic, trail-blazing women”
or “always vulnerable” even in their criminality: The “poor, vulnerable murderess.” The poor unfortunate, vulnerable emotionally-violent woman”
However It is weak-minded and wrong to censor reality simply to appease a politically-correct, gender bias-confirming mind-set.

There is a gender-biased assumption that female perpetrators and their victims are insignificant, infinitesimal  and ought be ignored as not a “real problem.”
This is not gender equality!
People will “tend to play down or completely ignore evidence that contradicts their existing opinion...”
“What’s more, they will have no idea that they’re doing it.”
The manifestation of confirmation bias
Or “Quick! call the thought-Police!”
Everytime a female perpetrator hurts a child, a female or a male the “thought-Police” are called to “explain” that these victims and these perpetrators aren’t a problem or an issue and to actively advocate inaction and “paying no attention” to these victims and their perpetrators and to only pay attention to the “real problem” female victims, male perpetrators.
Family Violence Physical Violence by Females towards Males
http://www.news.com.au/national/crime/mistress-charged-with-killing-boy-woman-with-garden-shears/story-fns0kb1g-1227288631539
http://www.heraldsun.com.au/news/law-order/woman-pleads-guilty-to-stabbing-death-of-cousin/story-fni0fee2-1227183110530
http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/lisa-mclaughlin-faces-court-over-seaford-stabbing-murder-of-graham-stevens-20140923-10kpl9.html
http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/woman-had-sex-with-man-she-convinced-to-kill-her-exboyfriend-court-hears-20140812-102qu9
http://www.theage.com.au/national/girls-at-war-the-new-face-of-violence-20090815-elsm.html
http://www.9news.com.au/National/2015/05/23/05/58/Woman-charged-over-NSW-stabbing



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