Monday, January 16, 2017

Community Safety Gender Equality Submission by Pete Dowe to A Victorian Gender Equality Strategy Consultation paper #VICforWomen “everybody has the right to feel physically and psychologically safe”."Social exclusion has been demonstrated to be the worst form of bullying [92]. In extreme forms it has been linked to suicide [206]." Edith Cowan University, May 2009 "Males marginalised to the Role of "Potential Perpetrator" The Hand that Points the Finger! " To me the most #sexist notion of all is that women are incapable of reason and personal, social and civic responsibility" Pete Dowe Social Contagion "A further aspect of using the peer group as a method of bullying is the opportunity for rapid transmission of emotions and behaviours through a crowd, diffusing the level of individual responsibility [184], so that each member feels less responsible for the victimisation, a process referred to as ‘social contagion’ " Edith Cowan University, May 2009 Q “What’s the difference between a problem and a real problem?” Ä “Gender” Pete Dowe



Gender-Equal Civic and Social Responsibility 

The best in women, the best of women, the best of feminine influence
promoted, encouraged and brought to the fore

Pete Dowe

If female perpetrators are treated equally to law-abiding women 
how will their victims ever be able to raise the issue?

And are they truly equal?


Pete Dowe





Q “What’s the difference between a problem and a real problem?”

Ä “Gender”

Pete Dowe





"Males marginalised to the Role of "Potential Perpetrator" 

The Hand that Points the Finger!


To me the most #sexist notion of all is that women are incapable of reason 

and personal, social and civic responsibility.
The toxic side of #chivalry. 

I guess the second most sexist notion would be that men don't have feelings. 

How convenient. 

You can't be #emotionallyviolent to someone who doesn't have feelings


Pete Dowe



Social Contagion
A further aspect of using the peer group as a method of bullying is the opportunity for rapid transmission
of emotions and behaviours through a crowd, diffusing the level of individual responsibility [184], so that
each member feels less responsible for the victimisation, a process referred to as 

‘social contagion’


"Social exclusion has been demonstrated to be the worst form of bullying [92]. In extreme forms it has been linked to suicide [206]." 



Edith Cowan University, May 2009






Recommendation

I recommend including male victims in the family violence/ community safety problem.

This is in the interests of improving female community safety outcomes.

Victimhood male or female resonates strongly with me.

Women can easily find a bunch of uninformed morally superior guys with sole commitment to march in a parade chanting slogans and then subsequently claim they did their bit.

As a male victim, I get victimhood and my support for female and male community safety is a deeply held conviction.



Pete Dowe




"I feel very scared and small, I want to take up less space in the world and not be noticed... It makes me feel like I don't deserve a place in the world, that I'm just here for other people. I feel completely impotent, vulnerable and exposed, like I don't matter at all."
Where is the line between normal behaviour and harassment? 
dailylife.com.au April 14, 2016
Date


I know the feeling
Pete Dowe

Would we include female #vigilante #rumourspread mobile phone text, photo and social media #cyberbullying as #streetharassment? Or does the victim deserve it cos they "musta done somethin" and make vigilantes perpetrate? Pete Dowe
#CyberbullyingLaw "Under (Australian) Commonwealth law it is an offence to “use a carriage service to menace, harass or cause offence, or for the purposes of a threat”. 13 It is also an offence to “knowingly or recklessly use a telecommunications service in such a way as would be regarded by reasonable persons being, in all the circumstances, offensive” Penalty Max. 3 years Imprisonment


Submission by Pete Dowe to A Victorian Gender Equality Strategy Consultation paper


Re “…work alongside the community towards a common goal of equal social, civic and economic participation for women in society.”
One cannot have “equal social and civic participation for women in society” without equal social and civic responsibility and gender-equal application of the law.
Re “Advancing gender equality increases women’s safety, security, health and wellbeing by encouraging a society based on respect and equality.”
Mutual respect would be a much more appropriate goal as respect is a two-way street.
Re mutual respect and equality: disrespectful attitudes to masculinity such as “all men are liars” “all men are bastards” “he musta done somethin” “he deserved it anyway” “it’s men’s turn to be victims” are inappropriate to say the least as is “women are the community” no they are not. Just socially excluded a whole gender there.
Males are also presumed guilty till proven innocent in the court of public opinion.
Also the assumptions of the bad, horrible, wrong, guilty, futile, stupid man
or masculinity as interpreted and defined by misandry and misandrist attitudes or if you prefer entrenched prejudice towards masculinity.
“Women write most of the books on human relations and over 80% of the purchasers are female.
Most of these books tend to focus on Men, what they do wrong and how you can improve them. Most relationship counsellors and therapists are also women.”
Why Men don’t have a clue...
Alan and Barbara Pease 2005
“Man Bad, Woman Good
Male Wrong, Female Right”
Pete Dowe
“If a woman slaps a man’s face in public, everyone assumes he’s in the wrong”
Why Men don’t have a clue...
Alan and Barbara Pease 2005
A man’s “side of the story” often “doesn’t get a look in” due to the assumptions created by a gender-specific approach to crime.
Apparently Heterosexual Male and LGBTI family violence/ domestic violence victims "ask for it" and "make female perpetrators perpetrate"

New research finds ‘shocking’ levels of domestic violence in LGBTI relationships

"...(physical) violence is not gender specific. Whether it’s a man or a woman hitting you, you’re still being hit.”

“And the worst thing was I got left there. Even though they physically saw me get assaulted in a really bad way they questioned what they had seen.

People didn’t want to get involved; they thought I must have done something terrible and I got really traumatised because no one helped me.”

Lesbian victim of domestic violence

New research finds ‘shocking’ levels of domestic violence in LGBTI relationships

news.com.au
November 8, 2015


The gender-specific assumption of the “good woman” “always victim, always vulnerable” “who couldn’t, wouldn’t, doesn’t hurt a fly” extends even to female perpetrators in lesbian relationships where the female victim of a female perpetrator is assumed to “have done somethin” to make her perpetrate.
This is NOT gender-equality.
This is NOT equal social and civic responsibility.
This is NOT mutual respect.
This is NOT respectful and appropriate attitudes towards females and males.
One cannot have respect of one person for another without Rule of law, due process and gender-equal application of the law.
Otherwise we are being asked to respect every female perpetrator in Victoria.
We must respect however a female perpetrator’s right to due process, right to remain silent, right to her day in court.
Gender-specific approaches to family violence also foster the assumption of the bad man who “musta done somethin” to make her perpetrate.       
This hypocrisy in gender-equality advocacy is a farcical approach to tragedy which also DECREASES women’s safety, security, health and wellbeing by ignoring female victims of female perpetrators.
Females also predominantly bully other females at school and in the workplace.
Female Aggression, Physical or Emotional is a Female Community Safety Issue and the consequences of female aggression are severe ranging from death to psychological scarring yet:
The behavior and associated anger is hidden, often wrapped in a package seen as somewhat harmless or just a "girl thing" 

“Bullying in the Female World The Hidden Aggression Behind the Innocent Smile” Psychology Today Sep 03, 2011

To clarify, Female Aggression as defined by Psychology Today is:
“It's only in the last decade or so that aggression by the female -- in the form of social or relational aggression -- has been recognized.
The words now associated with female aggressive behavior include: 
excluding, ignoring, teasing, gossiping, secrets, backstabbing, rumor spreading and hostile body language (i.e., eye-rolling and smirking).  
Most damaging is turning the victim into a social "undesirable". 
The behavior and associated anger is hidden, often wrapped in a package seen as somewhat harmless or just a "girl thing".  
The covert nature of the aggression leaves the victim with no forum to refute the accusations 
and, in fact, attempts to defend oneself leads to an escalation of the aggression."

“Bullying in the Female World The Hidden Aggression Behind the Innocent Smile” Psychology Today Sep 03, 2011


Re “Gender equality also has tangible benefits for Victoria’s productivity and economic prosperity, as more women are supported to reach their potential.”
The John Glenn character (played by Ed Harris) in the Movie The Right Stuff says that he
“couldn’t be an Astronaut without pretty good backing at home. If I say I want to do something, by golly my wife’s behind me. 100%! I just feel great to be an American and to live in a Country where the best in a Man can be brought out.”
So America brings out the best in a man so long as “the wife” is supportive and doesn’t hold him back?
We now acknowledge that women being limited solely to a child-bearing, child-rearing role of being “behind a great man” is wrong.
Yet, not according to the feminists who complain they are “being held back” because “they don’t have a wife” someone to cook and clean and bring them tea and toast in bed.
Holding up a passive limiting female role to be oppressive but only where a male is the beneficiary.
The same morons who brought us “It’s men’s turn to be victims”
now bring us “It’s women’s turn to be victims of women”
Therefore apparently we should disadvantage and impede males and females so that the best in females can be brought out?
Gender-envy politics from feminism which desires a partner to be in a passive, supportive spousal role for the gratification of “the great woman”.
Re Greatness
Few are chosen
Many are self-appointed
Pete Dowe
And Re “More women than men graduate from higher education”
Males are educationally disadvantaged here.
Is this the "right" kind of gender imbalance?
The "right" kind of social exclusion?
The “right” kind of gender specificity?
This is NOT gender equality
Re “Gender equality also has tangible benefits for Victoria’s productivity and economic prosperity…”
Workplace bullying causes loss of productivity and costs to the economy, yet bullying by women “is seen as somewhat harmless or just a "girl thing".  

Psychology Today Sep 03, 2011

“The words now associated with female aggressive behavior include: 
excluding, ignoring, teasing, gossiping, secrets, backstabbing, rumor spreading…”

Psychology Today Sep 03, 2011

Rumors in the Workplace

Managing and Preventing Them


“Rumors. If you haven't been a victim of one, you may have participated in one.

At work, however, this type of interaction is harmful and costly. It wastes time, damages reputations, promotes divisiveness, creates anxiety, and destroys morale.”
Let people know that rumors are unacceptable – “Establish a policy for dealing with rumors and gossip. Outline what you'll do to prevent rumors from starting, and address how you'll deal with the people who engage in this behavior.
Talk about the effects of rumors in the workplace. The more that people understand why the behavior is damaging, the more likely they'll be to monitor their own participation.”

If one genuinely believes in gender equality and gender diversity surely the make-up of the recently announced seven member victims of crime consultative committee is ludicrous.
Six women and the one "token male"
The "right" kind of gender imbalance?
The "right" kind of social exclusion?                                                               
The “right” kind of gender specificity?
This is NOT gender equality.
To reiterate a man’s “side of the story” often “doesn’t get a look in” due to the assumptions created by a gender-specific approach to crime.
Nor do female victims of female perpetrators “get a look in”.
It is incumbent upon all holders of public office to serve on behalf of the whole community with respectful, appropriate attitudes to both genders and reasonable, even-handed, gender-equal application of the law.

To formulate public policy which socially excludes one gender does not meet the responsibilities of public office bearers and simply plays “musical chairs” with social exclusion by including one gender at the expense of another gender’s exclusion.
Surely it is ludicrous to approach gender politics/ gender equality/ law and order/ community safety from a perspective of “winners take all” and to leave citizens in the dark as to their inclusion or “whether they’ll have a chair when the music stops”
“What barriers have you observed for women?”
As previously mentioned females are victims of physical and emotional violence by female perpetrators in the home and in the workplace at University and in public.





Re “How do we shift embedded attitudes about women and their role in society?”
Attitudes such as: “always victim, always vulnerable” “who couldn’t, wouldn’t, doesn’t hurt a fly” “incapable of reason nor accountability” “incorrigible, hopeless, can’t be expected to be responsible”
These attitudes can be shifted by gender-equal application of the law and equal social and civic responsibility with respectful attitudes also towards masculinity.
Re “Gender inequality is a key driver of poor outcomes for women”
Gender inequality as in not seeing oneself as equally personally responsible i.e “always victim” attitude is a driver of poor health outcomes and life circumstances as it discourages women from taking responsibility for their choices and their mistakes.
The “always victim” attitude disempowers women.
Gender-envy politics.
Crying poor because they don’t have a wife.
This is learned helplessness.
Blaming others for one’s lot in life, blaming “the patriarchy” and not doing anything to improve one’s lot is unhealthy.
To indulge/ encourage “righteous” attitudes of bitterness, vengeance and jealousy, envy is unhealthy.
Women are much less likely to self-regulate their behaviour or regulate each other if they believe they are unaccountable “righteous” victims of the patriarchy.
I’ve heard a middle-aged woman express the attitude “I was born the wrong gender”
All over for her now? Life not worth living? Nothing she can do to improve her lot in life? Make it more meaningful? Make herself happier? Nothin you can do?
Another sad victim of the patriarchy?
Sounds like the Mortein Ad:
Louis the Fly: “Another victim of Mortein”
“We mourn today those who do not/ cannot/ have it all“
Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
This is learned helplessness.
The metaphorically “tragic” loss of potential for “her brilliant career” from a “couldabeenchampionette” who “doesn’t have a wife.”
To encourage the unrealistic notion that all women are incredibly intelligent, talented, skilled and of immense character, empathy and altruism who make every situation she enters all the better but is unfairly held back
is to encourage unrealistic expectations in femininity and of femininity setting females up for disappointment.
In the sit-com Seinfeld, the character of the father of George Costanza recounted how he was not born in America and he discovered that this disqualified him from ever becoming President of the United States.
He said he never voted from then on
and didn’t want any part of American democracy.
“They don’t want me, I don’t want them!”
If one judges their life opportunities male or female, on the likelihood of achieving lofty status, one is destined to take the attitude that “they were hardly done by.”
“Having it all” sounds greedy, selfish.
And is a recipe for envy, stress, burnout and poor health.
If I as a middle-aged man was apparently born the “right” gender in terms of opportunity I was also youth at risk who became debilitated by anxiety at 19 leading to the marginalisation of long-term unemployment.
If you say my “disadvantage” was health not gender we are talking about health outcomes here and unhealthy attitudes leading to unhealthy choices and disempowering self-defeating behaviour.
For instance, whatever happened to my brilliant career? and my loss of potential? Oh woe is me? Oh the pain, the pain?
Seriously, I did have a silly notion once of suing the medical profession for my “couldabeenchampion loss of brilliance career-wise” and for being “held back” by the “neglect of the health system” for mismanaging my anxiety.
And then I grew up.
Took responsibility for my mistakes, choices and attitudes.
Re “1 in 5 young people surveyed by VicHealth believed women often say “no” when they mean “yes”.
I don’t know what to make of this.
I could add that in relation to passive/ aggressive communication on the part of females, women may say yes when they mean no or “the hidden anger behind the innocent smile”
For example at the local public library female librarians when taking a pc booking for clients would ask if you wanted to book a particular pc?
Computer A, b , c, d , e , or f?
When this offer was made to me, I inquired “They’re all the same (the pc’s) aren’t they?”
And the female librarian then showed her true feelings by angrily replying “OF COURSE THEY ARE!”
Then why offer something you don’t think is worth offering to people who haven’t asked for it?
And the answer is: It seemed the female librarians’ code for “this guy’s a jerk” was if you accepted their offer and asked for a particular pc ala
“Oh computer F thanks”
Yet one wouldn’t ask for a certain pc if it wasn’t offered.
And yet even realising the passive aggressive game that was being played I do think I later took up one of these “offers” of a particular pc booking at the public library.
Why?
Because as a male, on the spot, I felt under pressure to comply with the female.
Under pressure to comply with a female, to cooperate, to receive the passive/ aggressive offer from the female librarian with “the hidden anger behind the innocent smile”
Why? Because of the common perception of man bad /woman good.
She was hassling but I knew who would look bad who would look wrong.
“How dare he refuse her helpful offer?” ha ha
Re “How have gender stereotypes affected you?”
As previously mentioned, I am a victim of gender emotional violence bullying by women with severe consequences to my health and life circumstances.
The assumption of the bad man, and the horrible male victim who “musta done something” is a “social undesirable” rumour spread, lack of recourse, difficulty raising the issue, gender specific approach to emotional violence.

Personal consequences of bullying by women
trauma, technical homelessness and financial hardship.

Recommendation

I recommend including male victims in the family violence/ community safety problem.

This is in the interests of improving female community safety outcomes.

Victimhood male or female resonates strongly with me.

Women can easily find a bunch of uninformed morally superior guys with sole commitment to march in a parade chanting slogans and then subsequently claim they did their bit.

As a male victim, I get victimhood and my support for female and male community safety is a deeply held conviction.

Pete Dowe








Community Safety Family Violence Double Murders Infanticide and Attempted Murder Female Aggression Mother Akon Guode pleads guilty to murders of children who were driven into Wyndham Vale lake, Melbourne The Age Jan 16th 2017 Domestic Violence


Guode, 37, appeared in the Supreme Court on Monday and pleaded guilty to one count of infanticide, two counts of murder and one count of attempted murder.


Infanticide has a lower moral culpability than murder, and carries a five-year maximum sentence rather than life imprisonment. 


#murder #femaleaggression #melbourne




Akon Guode pleads guilty to murders of children who were driven into Wyndham Vale lake

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A mother of seven has pleaded guilty to murdering two of her children and killing a third by driving her car into a lake in Melbourne's west.
Akon Guode's three youngest children, 16-month-old Bol, and four-year-old twins Hanger and Madit died after she drove the car into Lake Gladman in Wyndham Vale on April 8, 2015.
Another daughter, six-year-old Aluel, was also in the car but survived.
Guode, 37, appeared in the Supreme Court on Monday and pleaded guilty to one count of infanticide, two counts of murder and one count of attempted murder.



Her guilty pleas follow pre-trial hearings during which sensational claims of witchcraft, drug abuse by a witness and threats to kill were aired.
The Melbourne Magistrates Court previously heard that Guode never physically recovered after giving birth to Bol, and suffered headaches and dizzy spells, for which she did not seek medical help.
A witness reported overhearing Guode say on the day of the tragedy that she would rather end her life and those of her children than see the children live with Guode's husband and his new wife.
In the days after the deaths, the witness said Guode told her she drove the car into the lake, but that the husband's other wife had used witchcraft on her.



The court heard the witness, who cannot be named, was abusing alcohol and the drugs ice and cannabis. 
The witness said that in the days after the youngsters drowned, she asked Guode what happened at the lake.



"I asked 'Did you do it?'," the witness said.
"[Guode said] 'Yeah I did what I did.'"
During one hearing, as an emergency call recording of another witness who saw the car being driven into the lake was played, Goude fell to the floor and wailed until proceedings were halted.
Guode's lawyer Julian McMahon climbed into the dock with his client, kneeling beside her and holding her hand as she continued to wail violently for more than 10 minutes.
The emergency call was made by Alexandra Colston-Ing, a teacher who happened on the scene and described seeing a car with somebody in the front and "movement in the back" driven "full bolt" into a lake.
Members of the Sudanese community who were present in the courtroom also began to sob.
Guode, from South Sudan, arrived in Australia in 2008 a widow with three children. Here, she and Joseph Manyang​ had four children together.
Mr Manyang, the father of the three victims, had defended Guode as a "loving mother" and said he did not believe she would have killed their children intentionally.
Guode's daughter Akoi Chabiet​ told the court that Mr Manyang's wife had threatened to kill her mother after the twins were born, though she denied this. 
The children's funerals were held at St Andrew's Church in Werribee.
Goude sat in the church's front pew, the children's father at her side, looking over the three small, white coffins.
The mourners were mostly from the South Sudanese community and sat singing the call-and-response songs of the family's Dinka culture, until they gave way for the church's bells.
One mourner, Makok Kuol took to the pulpit to deliver the eulogies for his cousins, who he called "three beautiful angels".
Guode was charged with the children's murders several weeks later.
Infanticide has a lower moral culpability than murder, and carries a five-year maximum sentence rather than life imprisonment. 
It applies to women who kill their children while affected by a mental disorder related to giving birth to them.
The Morwell woman's criminal trial was due to start in two weeks after she had earlier indicated not guilty pleas to the charges.
Justice Mark Weinberg​ remanded Guode in custody until her next court appearance on January 31.